
Let's begin by saying that I love 3. The kitten escapades, the endless curiosity and the penchant for stories all come to mind. Learning how to do "big girl" things, showing true depth of thought and empathy, and making up songs about anything and everything. And the cute things Kalina says, and thinks, and how wonderfully little she still is. Can't she be 3 forever?
But she can't, and 4 has pleasantly surprised me by being 3, but even more so. So far, we enjoy even more complex kitten escapades, Kalina artwork that sometimes makes sense (but it's okay if it doesn't, too), invented words, silly jokes, and truly original thinking. Logic, a sense of order, and patience are all lovely traits, too.
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| Uncle Alan and Autn Diane visited! |
During her threes, Kalina went from purely shy to jubilantly friendly, and from often frustrated to an increasingly able problem solver. She's attuned to herself--her feelings and needs--beyond her years and openly apologizes for wrongs better than many adults. She can now actively play with other kids--and actively play without anyone. Animal caretaking is still a top priority, yet she recently left the house without an animal friend and survived--even thrived--for about the first time since she could walk.
Still sugar-sweet, Kalina cheers me up, and Elise, and Daddy, and random strangers in the grocery store, I'm quite confident. She makes me think about things I've never thought about before (and not just, "Is God allowed to run through traffic?") She's ever-loyal, and honest.
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What's a cat party without matching
cat outfits? |
The girl who never wanted to bother with numbers can count past 100, frequently cites a trillion, and adds a little bit. She writes her name (albeit never left to right), draws balloons, houseboats and mouse kennels, and holds rhythm better than many elementary-schoolers according to a music teacher friend of mine. She dances her own, lovely version of ballet to classical music, and teaches Elise how to do cool things like that, too. Kalina can find and name all states where friends and family members live. And she can read (a little) and spell (inventively, but well). She knows how to raise plants and baby kittens, almost always asks permission, and never runs into the street. She recently learned how to pump herself pretty high in the swing, which also required overcoming her fear of swinging high.
No, she's not the perfect person. But Kalina is nothing short of amazing.
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| The party table! |
As you would probably guess, Kalina decided to have a kitten party to celebrate her new age. Actually, it was going to be a kitten/lamb/bunny party, but we simplified lest I have to track down party paraphernalia representing three different species. Would she rather do something special with her family? No. Would she rather go someplace fun? No. A kitten party we would have. I couldn't have been more excited.
In years past, our house has been too small for parties of almost any kind--especially with kids around. Not the case, this year. I excitedly typed, "cat party" into Google. After seeing too many pictures of cats in party hats, I changed my search to, "cat birthday party." Even worse. But...by adding "kids," I soon accessed a wealth of ideas--even improved upon since our previous cat party when Kalina turned 2.
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What's not to love about
chocolate kittens? |
It took only a nanosecond for me to decide we'd be providing each guest with a small (cheap) stuffed kitten at the party. After all, Kalina, who's very fond of her friends, would like nothing more than to play "kittens" with them--and offering them a free cat might be the only way to convince them to even come close to sharing her enthusiasm. After all, four-year-olds ask far too many questions to simply humor someone.
After much deliberating, I involved Kalina in almost all of the planning and preparations. She made the final decisions on which stuffed kittens to buy, she helped bake the cupcakes, and she went to the store with me to pick up balloons. After all, that's half the fun. She was pleasantly surprised, however, to see her cupcakes decorated like kittens when she awoke on birthday party morning.

I'll admit that poor Kalina was a bit confused as to when, exactly, she'd be turning 4. "Now am I 4?" she'd ask throughout the day. In truth, Matt and I hadn't quite decided--should we officially celebrate over the weekend, when he's around, or on her real birthday, two days before we were heading out of town on a giant trip? In the end, I couldn't lie to my child. So we'll end up celebrating "birthday week," hopefully to culminate in frozen yogurt at exactly 3:45 on Thursday, followed by one or two presents and any cards she receives in the mail.
But nothing could be more festive than a kitten party, in Kalina's opinion, anyway, so Saturday morning was the highest of highs. She and Elise wandered around with armfuls of balloons while Matt and I frantically put the finishing touches on the decorations, food and craft activities.
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Molly, Madeline, Elise, Kalina
playing at the vet's office. |
Kalina could hardly wait to welcome her guests. Soon, six small girls (including Kalina and Elise; it ended up being a small party--and we don't actually know any boys Kalina's age, by the way) were darting around the family room. That's when I brought in the kittens, in a basket.
Both of my girls had known for at least a week or two that they would be getting a kitten at Kalina's party (which Elise thought was her party, too, for her birthday, too, but no one really minded). They dove in, and the other girls followed.
Then we made beaded collars for them, complete with name tags (Kalina named her kitten Emily, and Elise named hers Meow). And kitten carriers, with stickers. The kittens all visited the vet (Kalina's had a broken leg that veterinarian Madeline mended) and the bathtub. Soon, they were in tip-top shape, and it was all pretty adorable. Elise, by the way, was an active participant in everything--from directing Grandpa in the exact specifications of her sticker-adorned cat carrier to scrubbing her kitten in the tub. I think she thinks she's 4, too.
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| Molly, Kalina, Madeline, Juliette. |
The kitten cupcakes were a hit, Elise sang along, in her own little way, to "Happy Birthday," and each candle was extinguished with minimal spittle. The party was perhaps quieter than some, but fun nonetheless. Kalina loved it.
The next day, after a visit from Uncle Alan and Aunt Diane, we opened family birthday presents with Kalina. We hadn't accounted for how zonked the child would be from all the activity, nor how quickly she would dive in. What resulted was that all the presents were unwrapped at record speed, and that she was really too tired to play with most of them.

However, that didn't stop her from wanting to have Daddy set up her brand new BIKE!
It was with great confidence that Kalina informed us she was ready for a big girl bike--after months of trike practice. After all, the neighbor girl, age 4, has one. And it was with a healthy measure of doubt that we actually decided to give her one for her birthday. This was followed up by extreme terror on my part as we took her for her first ride, later in the day.

Kalina saddled up (she calls her seat the saddle--and please don't anyone tell her differently) and pushed off, apparently not knowing that she might tip over, and if she did, there would be blood. And then, with only a little help from Daddy going up a hill, she rode! A bike! All by herself! And liked it! (With training wheels, of course.)
Elise and I followed on the toddler's "new" big-girl trike as Matt walked along beside Kalina--hanging on nearly tight enough for my taste. I was glad Kalina couldn't see my face and only heard, "Wow, Kalina, all that trike practice really paid off!" rather than my silent shrieks as she pedaled too close to the curb or went a bit faster than was comfortable for me.
We worked on braking, with Matt carefully letting her approach parked vehicles while patiently (too patiently?) reminding her to brake, helping her figure out how to steer a little but not a lot, and catching her when she would've fallen over otherwise (yikes!). He cautioned her against coasting down a large hill all by herself.
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| Presents! |
Kalina made it all the way around the block and would've gone further if she hadn't been hot and tired. Her kitten had fun, too, in the handlebar bag.
Elise has started to insist I not push her on the trike--but before she gets anywhere with that, will have to learn to pedal. Little Meow also had fun.
Continuing on with birthday week, Kalina tried her bike again Wednesday night. We made it a couple hundred feet in tiny increments before we all walked home. Whew, for a second, I barely recognized Kalina--glad she's back!
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| Guess what's in the big box! |
Birthday morning dawned sunny and sweet. It took Kalina a little prompting to remember the occasion, but that didn't stop her from milking it the rest of the day ("I can flush twice, Mommy, it's my birthday!" "We should have three stories, it's my birthday!"). But it was all said with a smile, and that's pretty much all I ask on a birthday. Within limits, of course.
What did Kalina want to do for her big day? Stay home and craft. With temps of 108 degree anticipated, that was fine by me. While the birthday probably wasn't the most exciting ever, that's exactly what we needed. Vacation was two days away, and we'd already had our fill of busy-ness for the week/month/season.
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Elise made sure the Hello Kitty
plates were in the picture. |
So we crafted. We mixed clay, and we made a pom-pom caterpillar. We also did a puzzle, ate a picnic snack in the yard, took Kalina's new umbrella for a run in the sprinkler, pretended to be squirrels gathering nuts, and whatnot, interspersed with some cleaning and other chores that needed doing before the trip. We had fish sticks for lunch, and I let Kalina get up from her "downtime" early and watch a little TV.
Then Grandpa arrived, and the true festivities began. We headed out for frozen yogurt (and to get keys made for our upcoming trip), and then back home for more low-key playtime. When Daddy got home, we opened cards and the two remaining presents.
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| Me, my birthday girl, and her fawn. |
I'm not sure for how many birthdays I'll be getting Kalina stuffed animals, but it's become clear that a new "friend" is a sure way to light up the girl's day. We already have a million, and she plays with them all, so what's one more? At 4, she's the proud owner of a new little fawn that she named Lilac. She's in love, and this little deer, which she's essentially been asking for for a year or so, rivals the bike as the favorite present.
We had hot dogs for dinner, of course, followed by leftover kitten cupcakes (they went over as well the second time as the first).
And then we did read two stories for bedtime, and the second one twice. After all, you only turn 4 once--we have to make it special.
Happy birthday Kalina! We love you and thank God for you every day!