Friday, August 23, 2013

Welcoming Naomi Anne!

Naomi Anne! 
Naomi Anne is here! Earlier than any of us was expecting! And we're delighted to be graced by her presence all the sooner! And equally thrilled that by not entering the world on a Saturday, she's already shaking things up in our family.

It was a bright and sunny Tuesday and the big girls and I were going about our usual business, as I was pretty confident we'd have at least until the end of the week before our new little one made her debut. We enjoyed a park playdate with friends in the morning, then checking off a few more of the tasks on my, "Much easier to do pre-newborn" to-do list. This had me trekking through Target with a full cart, and may have contributed in some small way to our baby's appearance. I noticed myself feeling increasingly contraction-y and crummy (as I had been for a couple days prior), and enough so that I mentioned to Matt that we weren't necessarily not having a baby that night.

When you suspect you're in labor the first time, you drink plenty of water, time contractions, rest up and Facebook your friends. When it's the third time around, you put in a load of laundry, run the dishwasher, straighten the house a bit, put fresh batteries in the camera, finish prepping the carseat and pack your hospital bag (after all, the baby wasn't supposed to come until the weekend). So it wasn't until my head hit the pillow at 10:30 that I paid much attention to the fact that contractions were coming every 4-5 minutes.

But the baby wasn't supposed to come until Saturday! Why do I keep mentioning this? Because both of my previous deliveries happened at about 39 weeks, laboring on Friday night and delivering on a Saturday. Like clockwork. This would've put me in labor on my birthday, I should add.

So I worked on getting to sleep, which I did succeed in for about an hour (more than for any of my previous kids). Not too long after I woke up from that, Grandpa was arriving and Matt and I were leaving for the hospital.

The weigh-in!
I was surprised to find that my contractions were still quite bearable. I was even more surprised when they stopped the second we walked onto the labor and delivery floor. And quite annoyed when I almost got sent home (after all, I'm a third-time mommy, I know when I'm in labor and as long as I'm going to be up all night, let's have a baby instead of doing this again tomorrow night!). Unfortunately, the monitor showed that the baby's heart rate was dipping occasionally, but fortunately, that and the fact that I was, actually, having regular contractions 3-4 minutes apart (just not very painful) made them admit me.

Newly born
The moon was full that night, and possibly not out of sheer coincidence (from everything Matt could grill out of every nurse he asked), labor and delivery was a hopping place. I was lucky to get a room, (and even luckier later on to get a nice recovery room). In very little pain, I dozed. This made my contractions go away again. I wondered if I should just go home.

But my doctor and nurse had other ideas when I consulted them a while later. For one, the weak contractions had actually made progress! They were real, they just didn't hurt much at all. The next news was that my doctor wanted me to go ahead and get the epidural, and start me on a trickle of Pitocin to get things going a little better. The baby, by the way, was doing just fine.

Look what I have! A baby!
The fact that I had a shot at a relatively pain-free labor actually took a while to sink in. I was opposed to the idea at first, having had much more painful labors than I'd hoped for with the first two. Could it really be this easy? Should it? Then I realized that I was the crazy one, not them. The anesthesiologist was in my room within 30 minutes.

Epidural safely in place, however, I briefly engaged in a somewhat alarming struggle against low blood pressure. We fixed the problem soon enough, and shortly after I was  reading, dozing and watching The Price is Right as the baby did the hard work of getting ready to be born. The attentive nurse helped keep me comfortable.

When it was almost time, my doctor arrived for a casual chat. She was early because she'd had several cancellations in her schedule. But in reality, she was just about right on time, and after less than 5 minutes of catching up about our kids, it was time to push.

At 5, Kalina is a lot more eager to
hold a newborn than she was at 2!
Naomi was out within 10 pushes, crying nicely (the only time I like to hear crying!), more than Kalina and less intensely than Elise. She had a short little umbilical cord, but it was enough to make her the first cord blood donor in our family (the other girls having been born on Saturdays where, in Durham, they didn't have anyone to collect the cord blood). Good plan being born on a Wednesday, Baby!

Naomi Anne was born at 1:30 p.m., weighing 6 lbs. 1 oz., and 18 inches long. The smallest of our three small babies! (But in her defense, the earliest!)

She has dark brown hair, very dark blue eyes, very light eyelashes and--most surprising--a dimple on each cheek! But where did they come from?

The big sisters (and Grandpa) descended upon us in the evening for dinner! Kalina and Elise were overjoyed to meet the new baby, and tossed around lots of "sweet!" "cute!" and "baby!" Kalina noted that the baby's feet looked cold, and expertly covered them up with a blanket. And Elise grinned proudly, ear to ear, the whole time it was her turn to hold Naomi. I wonder if little Naomi knows how excited we all are to have her join our little family!

The bundle is twice as big as the
baby!
We also worked on pronouncing Naomi, a name they distrusted at first, but quickly fell in love with. Thank goodness for the practice: otherwise, the poor girl might grow up thinking she's to be called, "Meeomi!"

Naomi's first couple of days have been lovely. She's perfectly healthy and perfectly beautiful. Her only hardship in life, so far, is that she seems to have been born with a tummy full of amniotic fluid that she spent her first 18 hours or so spitting up and enduring some tummy pain over. Poor thing! She still seems to have some gas pains, but hopefully they'll calm down as her tummy gets used to having something other than amniotic fluid in it. She also gets really fussy when she needs to sleep. But don't we all?

Pancakes, yogurt, fruit and a cookie,
our first meal together as a family
of 5!
I have learned a few things about Naomi already. First, the spasmodic tapping I felt coming from her in-utero is her foot. It just kicks like that sometimes. She likes to cuddle and thought being on her tummy was just the best for her newborn photo shoot yesterday (pictures to come--she's already proving herself extremely photogenic). And she slept well last night--I was worried she had adjusted her sleep-to-eating ratio a little too far toward the sleep end, but her final weighing at the hospital showed her weight at 5 lbs. 11 oz., which means she only lost 5% of her birthweight. The nurse assured me that was excellent!

And, as the best birthday gift ever, I got to bring her home today. No, I did not put a bow on her. Yes, I am tempted to.

Look at my beautiful eyes!
Kalina, when we brought Naomi home: "Ooooohhhh look at her cute little outfit! Isn't she adorable?!?"

Elise: (sniffing her little sister) "She smells like a baby!"

Now, we're all taking turns holding the cuddly little bundle, and she's alternating between tolerating and enjoying the attention.

 We're all so grateful to God for this newest little blessing! We can't wait to see what life has in store for her--and what she has in store for us!

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

An Interview

We raised a luna moth!
The kids have so many great things to say, every hour of every day, that I thought I'd see what they do in an actual interview. I had to interview them separately so they wouldn't give all the same answers/fight over answers. I also occasionally tried to get more clarification, but, perhaps because of the pressure, the girls were a bit less prolific than usual. Here's the transcript:

Elise:
If you could be any animal, what would you be? A penguin. Because I like penguins. Because they're black and white, some of my favorite colors. Because they go in water.
What would you like to be when you grow up? A mommy penguin that has baby penguins in her tummy. Anything else? No. [Previously, she'd wanted to be an astronaut mommy--the person who cooks for all the astronauts. Because even astronauts need mommies, right?]
What does Mommy do all day? Work.
What does Daddy do all day? Work.
What would you do if you could do anything you wanted for a day? Play and do work. Fix dinner, play with toys. Go to the Magic House, and the places where we go and I ride in my carseat. The Magic House, the grocery store.
Where are your favorite places? The Magic House, the mall
If you could do anything right now, what would you do? Go to the mall and bring this snack. [Goldfish]
What makes a rainbow?  The sky
What's your favorite holiday?  All of them. I just like holidays.
Sometimes the girls make me take
pictures of all their stuffed animal
setups. Cute!
What makes you the happiest? Ice cream. What's your favorite flavor? Chocolate.
What makes you the saddest? Being hurt
When are you the most scared? Because of the woods. What are you scared of about the woods? Bears. Sometimes I'm brave. If I was by myself I would be brave. And I would take a flashlight!
What do you do when you're afraid? Pray. Does it help: No. Only being inside.
What will you be doing one year from now? Going to preschool.
What would you do to make the world a better place? I don't want to talk anymore.
[At this point, we took a little break. I managed to get her started again, though:]
What's the funniest thing you can think of? Jokes. A pig having no home! [smiles--this is a classic joke from a few months ago] When Kalina gets hurt I'll think of some jokes. [To cheer her up]
What's your favorite thing to do with Daddy? Ice cream
What's your favorite thing to do with Mommy? Read and eat ice cream.
What do you love about Kalina? Playing with her.
What are your favorite foods? Goldfish, eating strawberries and chocolate and fruit bits and cooked carrots if you give me them, and Feta cheese.

Matt and the girls like to dig for
worms in the compost pile.
Kalina:
If you could be any animal, what would you be? A kitten. Because I love them.
What would you like to be when you grow up? A mommy. Anything else? No. [Just a couple weeks ago she told me she wanted to be a piano teacher for kids ages 3 through 7 1/2.]
What does Mommy do all day? Work and play with the kids.
What does Daddy do all day? Work on the fish tank and sometimes play with the kids. Today he went to Lowe's with me and Elise stayed home. [Matt has been building an aquarium stand!]
What would you do if you could do anything you wanted for a day? Eat ice cream, go to Grandpa's, have all the treats I wanted, and then take some naps, and then play with Legos. [Elise was listening in and mentioned that she would do that too.]
If you could do anything right now, what would you do? Play with Legos.
Where are your favorite places? Piano lessons, the Magic House, Home, Anna's house. Have you ever been to Anna's house? No. Why do you like these places? They're so fun!
What makes a rainbow? When it rains, there's a rainbow!
What's your favorite holiday? Easter and Christmas and Valentine's Day. Why? On Valentine's Day we get treats, and people love us. Christmas, because there's snow to play in sometimes and a lot of people come over, and there's a Christmas tree!! And Easter, because we get to search for Easter eggs.
Look how big I'm (not!)
getting! 37 weeks.
What makes you happiest? When I'm eating treats!!! What kinds are your favorite? All of them! Except the really spicy ones.
What makes you saddest? When I get hurt.
What makes you the most scared? When I go to bed, because I'm afraid that monsters or something scary will come into my room.
What do you do when you're scared? Pray. Does it help? No, but a little. What helps? Being with Mommy, or Daddy.
What will you be doing one year from now? Playing with Barbies if you allow me, I don't know. I hope to be learning how to sew, and sewing a bunch of stuffed animals for me and Elise. [Sure, she can play with Barbies, just not at my house if at all possible. Blech.]
What would you do to make the world a better place? Eat treats more often. How does that make the world better? Just because treats taste good.
What's the funniest thing you can think of? If a giraffe went running around in the hallways.
What's your favorite thing to do with Daddy? Do Dashy and Mountain King. [This is where we play two specific classical music pieces, and the girls run around in circles on the rug. There's some choreography to it, too.]
What's your favorite thing to do with Mommy? Build with Legos and play the zoo game.
What do you love about Elise? That she's my little sister, and that she is a baby penguin. I love that she is a penguin.
[Kalina got a few extra questions because her attention span was a bit longer.]
What's your favorite memory? When I was in my wedding. What did you like about it? That I looked pretty. [She's referring to being a flower girl in Aunt Laura's wedding, just before she turned two. Not sure if she remembers the wedding or the photos from it...]
What do you like to do with your friends? Play fairies and look for black rocks.
What would you do if you had a million dollars? Buy treats. Buy stuffed animals. That's all.
What are your favorite foods? Applesauce, beans, strawberries, watermelon, pancakes. Favorite for snack is Goldfish.

My observations:

1. Treats make quite the impression.
2. So if both my girls want to be mommies (even if a different species), and mommies work all/much of the day, then why is it so hard to get them to help clean up? Sheesh.
3. If we're ever relying on my girls to make the world a better place, we're probably out of luck. But we will have plenty of ice cream.
4. My children could stand to dream a bit bigger. You could do anything you want for a day and you'd work and fix dinner? And you could do anything you want right now and you'd play with Legos? Or, maybe, they're being raised with realistic expectations? At least their dreams are achievable?

We'll keep up with them as they grow. Stay tuned.

Monday, July 29, 2013

Ready or not?

This is why I love having
girls.
People often, kindly, ask me how my pregnancy is going, and whether or not I'm ready for a new baby. It's such a big question, that second one.

So I'll answer the first one first. The pregnancy is going fine. I'm only just entering the achy, insomniac stage--a month or two later than last time, for which I'm grateful every day. That doesn't mean I don't have my share of weird symptoms and issues (why is my foot swollen and hurting? Why all the indigestion? Why do the kids need something, or try to crawl on me, every single time I sit down?!?)

I had a doctor appointment Friday, and brought the girls for the first time since the big ultrasound. Except for the super-annoying, super-common chant of, "I'm bored, I'm tired, I'm hungry," they behaved like princesses (the good kind, not the snobby kind) and enjoyed seeing Mommy in the hot seat for once (I wonder if they wished I'd gotten a shot).

College friends!
I was rather charmed that when the doctor pulled out the tape measure and the heartbeat thingy, and two smiling faces peered over the table. The girls, up unprompted off the chair they'd been nicely sharing under threat of having to stand instead, were pretty excited to check on their baby sister! It was their favorite part, of course, aside from introducing their stuffed animals to the surprisingly interested nurse and the doctor.

I'm measuring 32 weeks (I'm 35 along) and didn't gain weight despite my food tour of Durham with Aunt Nancy. Has the baby dropped? Is it just because it was morning and I'm smaller in the mornings? I'll have an ultrasound next time to make sure everything's okay; I'm not really worried.

And onto the second question: are we ready?

ISU: the next generation.
Are we ever ready? Is it even possible? The truth is, we are definitely not ready in a practical sense. Definitely not. If the baby comes now, she'll be sleeping in a drawer, wearing outfits that have not recently been washed and wearing her sister's size 5 diapers (they're just for nighttime), plus whatever we can nab from the hospital. Oh, the horror.

The children have stopped asking me if I'm going to have the baby today, but they'd probably better start up again in the next few weeks. And we've been working a lot on getting ready for the little one.

For instance, we've thoroughly scrutinized photos of Baby Kalina and Baby Elise, read a few "I'm a big sister now" types of books, ensured that the baby has a "soft blankie" (this is a big one for Elise), covered "baby etiquette" in minor detail (so far), and stocked her room with a few presents people have given us (Elise is very protective of the baby's things for her).

We took our houseguests to the
botanical garden!
Still to do:
-Take a picture of my growing belly
-Fill the freezer
-Get the baby's room, clothes and diapers ready
-Track down all the baby equipment that's scattered throughout 3 different areas of the house
-Clean, clean, clean
-Visit the zoo, the children's museum and all the other fun places for the "last time." (Ever?!? I can't help but wonder)
-Finish all my freelance work to the best of my ability
-Give kids a crash course in all the "self care" items I've been neglecting for months
-Pack the hospital bag
-Finish Elise's and Kalina's baby books (eek! but I have this blog, right?)

In short, it does feel like I'm preparing for the end of the world. "It's not the end, it's the beginning!" I try to tell myself. We'll do it all in August: there's time, right?

The kids are getting ready in their own ways, which includes asking lots of good questions (Will the baby have hair? Kalina thinks no, Elise and Mommy think yes. "Will the baby fall on the floor when she pops out of your tummy?" -Kalina) and making lots of assumptions ("If the baby crawls toward bath water that's too hot, I will scoop it up and pull it away!" -Elise "I will catch the baby when she pops out of your tummy!" -Elise). They are excited for the baby to walk, run ("It'll be the slowest runner!" -Kalina), talk, toddle, sing, laugh, smile, eat mushed-up food, eat birthday cake, and all the rest. Me too. Kalina has also just begun to be on the lookout for things the baby shouldn't put in her mouth. I have a feeling she will be an annoyingly vigilant big sister (much to her mommy's delight). They do anticipate her being very cute--a unanimous sentiment in our family.

They're prepared to laugh at the baby's antics, from expecting her to "sing cute little songs" to swing in the baby swing. They anticipate that a highlight will be having her grab their fingers (they're not far off, honestly!). Elise also anticipates a lot of waaah-waaaaahing (as she calls it). 

[Elise, as an aside, also has a baby in her tummy. It used to be Ellie, her doll, who was born on her birthday (so the story goes), but now it's a boy baby. Ask her if you can feel the baby move sometime...]

And they're already starting to bond. They like to say hi through my tummy and, occasionally, into my mouth (they think that'll help the baby hear them). 

But I don't think they have any idea how much their world will be changed (they think they're tired now!). Oh well, they like surprises. Right??

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Ode to the third Odegaard

Ultrasound at 30 weeks: learning
to suck her thumb?
The other day, I realized I was in my third trimester. The final one. I'd been in it for weeks, but didn't even know--how could this be? Is this simply the way it is with child #3? I already feel bad for this little girl!

I'm trying to convince myself that there are good things about being the third child in our family. And here's what I think this baby should know:

-Your birth is being anticipated with more excitement than fear. I know how to take care of a newborn (and toddler, and preschooler), and I know how to take care of two. This is markedly different from my previous two babies (How will I take care of a baby?!? What if labor hurts?!? What if I don't sleep?!? and, Is it even possible to manage two children at once?!? What if they both cry?!? What if I don't sleep?!?). Mommy will probably be calmer and more rational with you than either of the previous babies: they have done the hard work of wearing me down.

It's a foot!
-What's more, there are two extra people to be excited for you. And they're REALLY excited. Elise has already helped me wrap a present for you (Shh! Don't tell, but it used to be a cat toy, but it's been one of her favorites at several ages! This was all her idea.). Kalina is planning ways to help out and entertain you.

-Think you'll be wearing only hand-me-downs? Think again! Not only are there a few sweet new outfits waiting for you already (thank you, Grandma!), but plenty of our other old standbys are just plain worn out and need replacing. You'll be getting some new clothes. And besides, whenever we go to Target we're already

-I love your sisters. But I will swiftly (and gently) elbow those two thugs out of the way if they so much as breathe wrong on you, and I'm not afraid to admit it.

-For what it's worth, Elise has less Mommy time, but more fun, than Kalina did. You'll have double the fun (plus plenty of Mommy time, because who doesn't want to hang out with a cute baby all the time?).

-From week 1, you'll really get to see the world beyond the four corners of our living room. Hope you like it!

-Mommy will be too tired to fight common first-year no-nos, such as: gnawing on shoes, sharing a cookie with me, playing in the sunshine and chasing the cat. You'll probably get away with a lot more than your sisters ever thought of.

-Our craft cupboard is well-stocked. We own every toy any child ages birth to 6 could possibly dream of. We have stuffed-animal birthday parties down pat. I don't have to Google the words to all the classic songs and nursery rhymes. In short, we're really well prepared for a little sister to join in our fun.

And we also might be able to guess a few things about this new little baby:

-Nope, she's not going to be a good sleeper. I am not kidding myself this time. She wakes up when I: shift positions, eat or lay on my back, and she's been known to stay awake for 30 minutes to an hour at a time, if not more (sometimes i lose track). I'm already pretty certain she sleeps light and only when absolutely necessary.

-On the plus side, she seems to already have a routine--and I can handle routines, even if they're not particularly in my favor. Baby Girl 3 currently sleeps longest between about 7:00 a.m. and 11:00 a.m. She then takes only short naps until about 9:00-ish, at which time she's more awake than not for several hours. She also squirms whenever we're hungry. In fact, the only time I can guarantee she'll be still is when poor Elise is trying to feel her kick.

-She will have lots of separation anxiety. This is because if she doesn't naturally display it, I will have no choice but to teach her. I know no other method of parenting than, "stick with me and you'll be alright." So, she will need to be by my side at all times--but she'll have her big sisters there, and we usually have a pretty good time.

-Baby Girl 3 just might be strong-willed. We have it coming from both sides in one form or fashion, and we're due--we don't have one yet. If this happens, Uncle Tom will be spending all of his vacation time running her around in the yard to wear her out, and Daddy will take over on weekends (all my genes are obedient ones, so I will not be held responsible).

-She might also be mellow. Her movements, while frequent, aren't something I would describe as crazy or even random. Calm and calculated, maybe (this could be worrisome in itself)? I've never felt like she was doing backflips, just stretching and repositioning.

-Or maybe she's just very seriously strong-willed. Uh-oh.

-She'll be another small baby--no doubt about it.

-She doesn't hiccup much, if at all. According to some wisdom, this might mean that she won't have tummy troubles once she's born. That will hopefully make for a happy baby?

-Baby Girl 3 will be cute! Her ultrasound photos are clear in that. She also may be a thumb-sucker, in accordance with her hand positioning in at least one photo.

-And she'll be much loved. No doubt about that.

Can't wait to meet her in person (but stay in there just a little longer, Baby!)!

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Kalina is 5?!?!!!

Kalina and her girls! (Minus a few.)
Kalina is 5! In fact, she is very 5! Sometimes it seems as though she's been 5 for months, but it's now official. Five is the age at which you take on more "big-kid" traits, like fixing your own breakfast, perhaps (and with any luck, your little sister's, and then gets you both ready for preschool, while Mommy takes care of the new baby), and fewer "little-kid" ones, like needing to be told to say "thank you," hopefully. It's a strange thing, having a "big kid!" But just in time, right?

Actually, Kalina has been acting "big" for a long, long time now. Not only is she ultra-responsible about everything from bedtime to removing her shoes each and every time she enters a house (LOVE that!), but she's an amazing big sister who has trained her little sister well in similar areas. And equally "big" is her heart, which has her playing sweetly with babies (whether animal or human), attending to her sister's needs (especially the purple ones), praying whenever we hear sirens and usually preferring "having conversations" with people over playing. I do not remember how this all happened, I'm just gratified that it did! She's incredible.

Birthday Girl and Birthday Girl's
Sister headbands!
And there are milestones, of course. Kalina is now, officially, a reader--and has been for some months! Actually, probably since her early fours, but she really took off a couple months ago with a series called the Bob books and now not only can read, but likes it! I look forward with mixed feelings to the day when she can pick up a book and read it cover to cover--we may never see her again!

The girl can add, subtract and divide within reason, count far past 100 and talk in depth about the life cycle of a butterfly. She knows all her planets, in order, including which ones are gaseous and which ones are rocky. Kalina can now cut shapes out of paper and bites out of a pancake. Her attention span is unmatched in her age group (and even among some adults). Perhaps best, and hardest, of all, she knows how to be patient.

If you look closely, you can see how
the cake has rainbow colors!
Kalina is clearly amazing--so we did our best to have a birthday celebration to match!

Her special day landed on a Friday this year, and Kalina was in our room the second her clock turned green. Happy birthday, Sweetie!!! We started the morning with "rainbow" cereal (Lucky Charms happened to be offering extra special rainbow marshmallows last week at the grocery store), and moved quickly to opening a couple presents, one of which was Elise's.

I knew we needed to open Elise's present early, because otherwise the surprise would be (very good-naturedly) spoiled. In fact, it had already been spoiled once or twice in the week prior, although I'm not sure Kalina noticed. Besides, Kalina loves keeping things as a surprise, so maybe she was able to deny what she'd heard. The truth is, Elise was very excited about her gift for Kalina: ponies like the ones she has! She came up with the idea herself, possibly motivated by the fact that Kalina had been borrowing her ponies for quite some time. Amazingly, I'd recently seen a new pony book set, like Elise's but different, at a reasonable price, so I quickly purchased it. Just as I'd hoped, Kalina was every bit as excited as Elise. She dug right in, and the girls nicely combined their herds. Brilliant thinking, Elise!

Next on our agenda: a surprise big-girl outing for Kalina. It just so happened that the local theater company was performing Cinderella that morning. Cinderella...5-year-old girl...birthday--we had to be there. I bought the tickets and surprised Kalina with them. Elise, for her part, was happy to stay home with Grandpa--making a rainbow birthday card for Kalina, no less!

Kalina dressed up in her princessy Easter dress, and we headed to the show. Albeit a bit overwhelmed (there were some rather loud activities beforehand) and not wanting to let go of my hand for a second, she managed to win a "beautiful" plastic ring as a prize, and we got our picture taken! The performance was amazing, and well-suited to kids. Wowed by the fairy godmother, Cinderella and her prince, Kalina even helped the rest of the audience call the fairy godmother in Cinderella's moment of need. Her favorite parts? The magical parts, and watching Cinderella dance with the prince. After the show, we took her picture with the fairy godmother--and near Cinderella, who was utterly swamped by a posse of pint-sized princesses, of which Kalina was the most patient.

Painting a suncatcher!
Back at home, it was time to make Kalina's birthday cake(s), including an "official" family cake and cupcakes for the party the next day. Her theme was rainbows, so we carefully mixed the batter and divided it into six bowls, one for each color. Then we layered cakes and cupcakes until all the colors were used up. We'd tried this before, and have not been disappointed in the results--pretty and pretty easy!

Soon, Daddy was home, early, from work and Elise was awake. Grandpa arrived and we dug into presents! Our 5-year-old did, in fact, need to be told to say "thank you" after every gift. Maybe next year...? I believe each present was considered the "best ever," or possibly it's just really fun being five and opening a bunch of fun stuff.

Kalina had asked for crafts, books (that she could read herself, and also chapter books), pets, room decorations and big-kid toys. "But not little-kid toys, Mommy, and I'm going to be giving all my toys to Elise." This pretty much describes what our big girl received. Daddy gave her a butterfly house (five baby caterpillars arrive by mail), Grandpa and Uncle Tom provided some craft kits (already highly popular), Aunt Nancy got her a piggy bank shaped like an owl (Aunt Jeanie provided $5, and we also started an allowance for her!) and some books, and I found some Lego sets for her (one from my childhood!), some books and some paper dolls. We've thoroughly enjoyed slowly getting out each of them, except for the Legos, which she dove into with gusto.

The rainbow walk game.
Speaking of Legos, I had never noticed before that they are their own language. It's not a spoken one; it's visual. For instance, we wouldn't all have the same name for the 2-bump x 4-bump chunky block, but we know exactly what it is (it's a classic). I can proudly say that Kalina has made great strides in her fluency in the past few days. Bewildered at the start, I witnessed her expertly fly through some instructions yesterday for a pony stable, needing little help from me. Quite a sight to see! But I'm off topic...

We enjoyed homemade pizza for the birthday dinner, followed closely by rainbow birthday cake. But how do you convince a birthday girl she needs to go to bed? Fortunately, we had a rainbow party with friends the next morning to look forward to!

Look! 5 candles!
Giddy hardly begins to describe Kalina's enthusiastic mood in the morning as she welcomed her party guests. Tidal wave? Pack of screaming monkeys? The guests may have felt a bit overwhelmed, especially since a mini-tidal wave mimicked Big Sister's every move. After some hyper playtime and dancing to rainbow-themed music (and sunshine and lollipops), we painted rainbow suncatchers. Then it was time for games (pin the sun on the rainbow, anyone?) and a highly popular rainbow walk. As it turns out, when you randomly dish out candy and stickers for walking around in a circle, kids will play for a long, long time. Fortunately, we had plenty of candy and stickers (still do).

We then sat down to cupcakes, and I lit four candles. We were all inhaling to sing the first note of Happy Birthday, when I was kindly reminded by a friend that my daughter is now five. Oops!! We quickly remedied the problem, took a new picture, and soon Kalina was beaming while all her friends sang.

A rainbow lunch.
And then the girls all clustered around, but patiently watched, as Kalina opened her gifts. Again, each one was the best ever (although she did, unfortunately, at one point decide out loud that the birdhouse craft kit was actually the best). We've continued to enjoy getting out new crafts and toys. In fact, we're still doing it. (We also used her birthday money towards a Cinderella doll for Kalina--Mommy fielded half the cost--handing the purple Rapunzel princess she received to Elise--both girls were quite happy.)

Then it was time for everyone to go, and Kalina graciously waved them all out the door. Technically, the birthday was over, but we still had an afternoon of crafting and Lego building to keep us quite contentedly occupied.

What a fun party!
What a lovely birthday it was! But it's important to remember that Kalina's still not entirely grown up. She still very much believe in fairies, still calls me Mommy most of the time, still wants to cuddle up for story time, still makes up songs and dances, still plays with stuffed animals (thank goodness!) and still pronounces penguin, "pingwing." Kalina at five is every bit as precious as the day she was born, and we're still every bit as proud of and enraptured by her.

Happy, happy birthday--and a happy year ahead!

Saturday, June 22, 2013

Ballet and lessons

Kalina in dance class.
The other day Kalina and I were listening to some lovely classical music while coloring. "Just a second, Mommy, I have to go dance," she told me before twirling around on the rug. I've posted about ballet before (see January), so you can probably already picture this.

Kalina was soon placed just left of center in the line of dancers for her class's performance piece (Bippidi Boppidi Boo from Cinderella, which happens to be the only Disney princess movie suitable for a 4-year-old)--a fact that I interpreted to mean she's really good. Which she is. She watches her teacher and can generally follow along, and in Predance 1, you don't really need more than that to stand out (other girls chose more negative methods, which I would sneakily ask Kalina about after every class).

At the dress rehearsal, waiting for
their turn.
Soon, Bippidi Boppidi Boo was running through my head day and night, and apparently Kalina's and Elise's, too, because they've both been singing it frequently. And getting the lyrics wrong, I might add--it's pretty cute. They have also each independently asked me for their own fairy godmother. I am not one, so, much to their disappointment, I couldn't grant this wish.

I got to watch Kalina make progress each month during observation, and then sometimes every day as she practiced. I also learned the dance, as did Elise, who learned the hard way not to get in the way of Kalina's wand. For some reason Matt never did (or at least never admitted to).

Isn't she great?
We did have at least one mishap: the ribbon from Kalina's wand unraveled in the middle of their routine one time during an observation class. I didn't notice the wand--I only saw my girl barely succeeding in choking back tears (a skill I have to commend her for, honestly, because she certainly never did that in the first 3 1/2 or 4 years of her life). As I rushed to her side, I did notice the wand and as I consoled her, her teacher noticed too. Soon a triumphant Kalina was being upheld as an example for what to do if something goes wrong on stage: just keep dancing! This became a mantra of sorts at our house.

Kalina's excited audience!
Kalina's success has been due to her own hard work--but we should give at least a little credit to an enthusiastically supportive little sister, who mimics her every move (or tries her best to) and encourages her big sister in every way a 2 1/2-year-old can. It had been strongly recommended to me that I not attempt to bring Elise to the performance--"it's just too long for little ones! Take her to the dress rehearsal instead!" But the girls were adamant: this arrangement would break both of their little hearts. Elise desperately wanted to see her sister dance in the real performance, and Kalina desperately wanted her sister to be there. We arranged a system in which Grandpa Tom would take Elise out when she needed to go home for bed.

The star of the show and her
flowers!
The last month or so of class time was devoted mostly to recital happenings (to my minor annoyance), and Kalina moved gradually from quite nervous ("What if I mess up?") to mostly excited. All the moms learned, more or less, how to do a high bun in an unwilling 3- or 4-year-old's hair (not sure who enjoyed that experience less--the moms or the girls). And then, after a "dress parade" and a dress rehearsal, it was performance time.

Grandpa Les and Grandma, who didn't want to miss the show, traveled down from Minnesota for a long weekend (and a happy 10th anniversary for Mommy and Daddy, and a happy Father's Day!). We all, along with Grandpa Tom, found seats in the front row of the balcony--which turned out to be a good thing as Elise had plenty of room to squirm, and wasn't the only one who occasionally forgot to whisper.

I'd gotten Kalina prepared in the large dressing room earlier, and torn myself away from my slightly nervous--but mostly brave--little ballerina, having been on vacation when the signup sheet for "helper mommy" was posted. What was she most scared about now? That Mommy and family wouldn't be in the audience watching her! Poor thing, I think it's hard for her to comprehend how much it'd take to get us to miss it. I think we both blinked back a tear or two, but another kind mother had given Kalina a Mento, and in the midst of all the chaos, she placidly watched me leave. We've come a long, long, long, long way, haven't we? I have been traded for a Mento.

Early birthday brownies!
Shortly afterward, Elise was perched on my lap and we were counting down the minutes until the show started. Fortunately, Kalina's class was third on the program, because Elise carefully searched for her sister in each piece (whispering frequently: "But I don't see Kalina!"), and probably wouldn't have lasted long if she hadn't spotted her soon. Thank goodness the little girl could pick her big sister out in an identical high-bun Cinderella crowd, from the balcony. Or at least she thought she could--good enough.

It's quite a feeling when your tiny little 4 1/2 (nearly 5)-year-old marches onto the stage, adorable and confident, and gives it her all. Her actions were confident and enthusiastic, the mishap of having her wand accidentally stick to another Cinderella's was quickly fixed, and by her own admission, she belted out the "Bippidi boppidi boos" louder than any other girl (I think we really could hear her even from the balcony). She seemed to be quite enjoying herself, and she was quite good.

Birthday Girl's Sister gets a
present, too--a purple pony
she will love forever (she told
us).
There were more than 2 hours of performances, with dozens and dozens of dancers. But my mommy bias has rationalized that Kalina herself--my own little girl--was the star of the show (a truth I can justify logically, just ask me sometime! I dare you.).

But the second star was sitting far from the stage (only because we weren't crazy enough to get in the line for seats an hour before the performance). Almost as important as a star of the show is a star of the audience. From the beginning of the performance, I enjoyed watching Elise almost as much as Kalina. The girl was riveted for nearly the first hour. I caught a whispered, dreamy: "I just love ballet! I wish I could take ballet lessons!" "You may, when you're a bit bigger," I whispered back. "Oh, good!" she beamed at me before turning back to the show. Her favorite part, other than Kalina? The music, she said. But I imagine she also liked the colorful lights and costumes.

Kalina and Grandma work on her
fairy house craft.
Elise sat on my lap almost the whole time, switching to Grandpa Tom for a portion (to Mommy's lap's relief--it's a little crowded there nowadays, especially when both little girls are fidgety). We kept asking her if she wanted Grandpa Tom to take her home, or if she'd rather stay--the answer was always the same. But after the last dance was danced, and they'd started in on the loooong credits, Elise happily allowed herself to be carried off by Grandpa, and then put to bed, long after her usual bedtime, but still earlier--and drier (they very narrowly avoided a massive downpour on the walk to the car)--than the rest of us. The rest of us yearned to join them, Kalina included, I'm sure.

Finally, we were rushing toward the stage to scoop up our own little Cinderella and help her enjoy her success. She was overjoyed at the beautiful flowers Daddy and Grandpa Les had picked out for her (including a couple purple blooms for Elise to see when she woke up the next morning), and not at all whiny about the looong wait she'd had to endure after her performance (she wasn't allowed to see the rest of the show, but did have to appear in the finale). What a trooper!

And what a success! When you consider she had to not only remember her dance routine (with a little help from her teacher), but also appear on a bright stage to an audience of hundreds, with virtually only strangers for support--I'm not sure I could've done it! But if you ask her, she'll tell you she loved it.

Will she continue? She's not sure--she doesn't like changing clothes and the fact that her hair feels funny when I take her ponytail out after class. Hmmm. Do I tell her that those aren't exactly real reasons, or do I let them conveniently excuse us from next year's high bun (or whatever they think up for us?).

Although there won't be a high bun next year in any case--we've potentially located a simpler place that we'd take her to instead. Several other moms from her current ballet class have asked for the number--it turns out that many moms share my dread of bobby pins and hair gel on their little girls, and  would rather focus on simple fun than stardom. I'm pretty sure Kalina will agree.

Meanwhile, Kalina has started piano lessons with her preschool music teacher for the summer, and perhaps the fall, and then eventually full-time (once Mommy has her energy back from the impending newborn). She loves it, as evidenced by her 35- or 40-minute attention span at her first lesson, a feat that barely surprised her mommy, but I believe astounded her teacher.

It fascinates me that Kalina is already making good progress. She's a lovely little student: she soaks up the one-on-one attention, engages and participates, and incorporates her vivid imagination. She loves her lessons, and even willingly practices--for now.

But again, we'd be remiss not to mention Elise, who has taken it upon herself to begin piano lessons, and has already successfully copied Kalina's finger positioning. When do you start a 2 1/2-year-old who has already started herself? During Kalina's lessons she watches intently, participates in conversation and munches her snack. "Un-involved" is simply not part of Elise's vocabulary. One of these days, I imagine, she'll sit down and play us a song.

And finally, a lesson that I didn't attend, but heard about later and thought was well worth noting. Grandpa Les used to coach girls' softball! So with my girls practicing their throwing, he pitched right in (pun intended).

Elise had the habit of throwing a ball at about a 45-degree angle from where she intended it to go. So Grandpa Les carefully showed Elise how to step with one foot and throw with the other. They practiced, and sure enough, the ball went straighter!

But some things are lost on a 2-year-old, who does not yet know the value of throwing straight. The girl looked straight at Grandpa and said, "Now I'm going to do it without all that stuff." And she happily went back to her original methods.

You can teach, they can learn, but will they use what they learn? I'll tell you in 20 years.

Friday, June 14, 2013

Elise-isms

At the Botanical Garden,
outshining the flowers.
It must be remarkably fun to be a 2-year-old. The line between real and imaginary is constantly blurred, so that not only are you a purple baby kitten, but wishes really do come true, because, poof, as soon as you wish on a dandelion seed and let it float away, an imaginary green stuffed bear appears in your hands, out of thin air! Wow! If only we could all be 2!

And the things Elise says or talks about usually reflect exactly what's going on in her mind, whether that's, "I changed our old house into a purple hotel!" or "When I close my eyes, I see purple!" It's a combination of a massive vocabulary with a minimal filter, and it's hilarious (and usually purple).



Elise's new big-girl bed! She wanted
to be sucking her thumb in the picture
since that's how she sleeps.
The ice-cream flavors she comes up with, for example, would put even Willy Wonka to shame. "Chocolate vanilla marshmallow M&M chocolate ice cream with purple sprinkles and chocolate chips and peanut butter to keep the chocolate chips on." Yes, please, says the pregnant mommy.

And then there are the random revelations along the lines of: "I do not like sticky milk. I do not like sticky Cheerios. Write that down, Mommy," and, "I have a great idea! Let's have a boy party!" (presumably for Daddy), and, "When I clean house, my pups lick the house clean!"

We have intriguing questions: "Why do people color?" or,
Elise: "What if an elephant picks me up by my shirt?"
Me: "What would you do?"
Elise: "Just hang there."

Kalina's new big-girl bed!
Elise loves to be a baby kitten--a purple one, of course. As she's naturally happy and curious, this suits her. Plus, it can be remarkably convenient at times. For one, it gets her extra cuddling--who can refuse to pick up a baby kitten nuzzling their knee? Even Kalina can't. Plus, if there's a question she doesn't want to answer, she can respond with a simple, "Meow." And then there are the side perks: "I have a rainbow tail! I painted it rainbow!" Wouldn't we all like a rainbow tail? When she's in kitten mode, she refers to herself in third person: "It wants its pink bear," which sounds a little strange coming from a 2-year-old, but can work in my favor, too. She's more likely to cooperate if I address my request to a baby kitten ("Does the baby kitten want to wear its purple shirt?"), and especially if her big sister dangles imaginary catnip in front of her as motivation.

And if you've been in Elise's vicinity lately, you've undoubtedly heard the big news: "We're having a girl baby, and we went to a seal show!" They are both true, and entirely unrelated. But she tells everyone.

Renee came to visit!
But my favorite has to be the random insights Elise has had on first waking up in the morning. Since she's started to sleep in, sometimes I wake her up--and the very first words out of her mouth have me smiling all day ("I want to eat at a restaurant, and I will be a helper and help carry the food," and, "My feet need a drink!" and of course, "I dreamed about making purple marshmallows. I know how to make them. You need purple food coloring. You can get it at a purple grocery store. I have a purple grocery store! They have purple carts.") What in the world was she dreaming of? Sometimes I greet her in the middle of morning playtime with her stuffed animals: "We were just making a lemon meringue pie and a juice pie!"

We made porcupines! And more
porcupines! And food for the
porcupines! And then we had to
squish them, but they'll be back
again someday (like Frosty) 
I could go on--and often, so could Elise. Let's hope she does, because the world really could use more purple, couldn't it?