Monday, December 19, 2022
October Outdoors
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
Elise at 12
If there's one thing that annoys Elise leading up to her birthday it's celebrating fall before celebrating her. As such, we have something of a family rule that we don't decorate for fall, buy anything pumpkin-spiced, or even talk about fall much before she's aged up. This year, however, she decided that September could be its own season. So it's kind of, almost, okay to talk about fall. [We do remind her, every year, that Grandpa Les has it way worse, with a near-Christmas birthday. This does not seem to change her convictions about her birthday + fall, but Grandpa gets a good dose of sympathy from afar.]
Honestly, I agree. September, gorgeous and lovely, is really neither pure summer nor pure fall. So we celebrated September as the summer-fall shoulder season this year, as well as Elise's 12th.
Elise is surprisingly low-maintenance when it comes to birthdays. She's happy with anything (as long as there's a party and sweets), and is content to stay within a budget, keep it simple, consider others, etc. She conscientiously drops hints about what she wants to receive, so there's little guesswork, and she'll gladly help with celebration prep. I know she'll have a great day, no matter what.
On her birthday morning, Elise managed to let us sleep in a bit, but still started her day with fanfare and sisters. Having
asked for hinted about a camera (a rather large gift), for months, the rest of her gifts from us weren't gigantic, but she did open a stingray Squishmallow from Naomi and a book and a bioluminescent mushroom kit from Kalina.
We enjoyed yet another box of Lucky Charms for breakfast (seriously, we call that breakfast?!?), and I baked Elise's cake so we could decorate it later. Then off to church, where Elise was over the moon to see one of her besties, who we don't actually usually cross paths with in church. Her family made a lovely fuss over Elise, and Elise's day was officially made.
At home, Matt made pancakes (a new tradition for birthday lunch? I kinda hope so!), and we opened a game of Spikeball from Uncle Tom and Aunt Clarissa! :) We tried to play, failed hilariously, and generally enjoyed ourselves so much.
Then Elise decorated her cake to the theme of sleeping under the stars, her highlight of the year, thanks to plenty of fondant. She was putting the finishing touches on when Grandpa and Marianne arrived for lots more fun.
We made the trip to Jason's deli, opened more gifts, and then expertly pogo sticked a whole lot in the driveway (she got a pogo stick from Grandpa and Marianne and mastered it almost immediately, having borrowed one once for a while).
A week later, Elise had some friends over for some low-key celebratory fun as well. They began with a craft--decorating wood cutouts of their initials. We even allowed glitter (under stringent rules since I was less than confident about some of the girls' ability to manage it responsibly--no offense, Elise's friends), although I regretted it later when I saw that the glitter didn't stick as well when the paint dried. I also regretted a wet paint/dry glitter blow-dry incident that you can still find traces of in the half-bath.
We enjoyed pizza (from two separate places--the cheap place that is the only kind one girl likes, and the gluten/dairy-free pizza for two other guests. Thank you Matt for doing that running around!), and then headed outside.
Earlier in the day, Kalina and Matt had created an awesome orienteering-based treasure hunt that took the girls down the trail a bit. I'm not sure everyone stuck with it, but they definitely all enjoyed roaming the woods, and eventually they made it to the end (which was, ironically, very close to where they'd begun. Even more ironically, they'd almost started digging there at the outset.).
Next, a campfire and lots of s'mores options: gluten-free Oreos, Rolos, York peppermint patties (which will forever be known as Yonk peppermint patties in our house--a hilarious mispronunciation Elise is officially able to laugh at now), pretzels, fruit-flavored marshmallows, and more.
And then, quickly, gifts. We'd requested only simple things. We ended up with everything from a lovely plant to a glittery, noisy rubber chicken. Hmm.
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At 12, Elise continues to amaze us with her good-naturedness (that she seems to be purposefully developing even more), joyfulness, and volume. And curiosity. And occasionally, daring. And strangeness creativity.
She's as emphatic as ever about certain types of scientific knowledge (plankton, etc.), and the outdoors, and baby snapping turtles, and whatever book/craft/pogo sticking/new pet/whatever other hobby she's into. It's fun, really, to be pulled along through all her interests. Most of the time. Other times they hit you a bit like a train.
Elise asks great questions and shows great empathy and thoughtfulness, with a very well-developed sense of social situations. It's not that she acts on that 100% of the time--but if she was annoying adults by chatting too late in the tent with her friends, she will freely admit she needed to have quieted down. She's an encouraging little soul, too, trying to push her friends and family to greater heights. Again, not 100% in the right way, but getting there, and with the right motivations.
Her pets in the past year have included a baby prairie kingsnake, a couple little turtles (painted, snapping, I think maybe one other), triops, copepods, tadpoles (2 kinds), a preying mantis, probably a couple fish, and of course her frogs and the standard things in our house. And probably more that I'm forgetting.
Elise still loves all things science, reading, writing, and theater. She's currently in Annie and in a show called Puffs, about the Hufflepuffs' experience at Hogwarts, in her theater class. She also continues to enjoy her voice lessons and loved planning and organizing the campout for AHG. Nature Club still continues, although it's been a bit bombarded by neighbors and is maybe not as big of a thing as it used to be, sadly. She's one busy girl!
People frequently mention how fun Elise is to talk to--a neighbor was even happy to drive her to theater classes last semester. She has no problem speaking to people of alllll ages. It's as though age doesn't exist--although she can definitely tell when people aren't acting their age, and she does value a certain level a maturity from kids who are old enough to know better. :)
Her sweet tooth still reigns, but she's just as likely to pop tomatoes into her mouth as chocolate chips (or, almost), and she even wants to try adventurous foods. She still climbs higher than we'd like, but is not afraid to do a lot of other things that we would like (get shots without a fuss, kill the spider, make friends with a new child, etc.).
She likes to tap into her creative side, whether by writing poetry and illustrating it, or, more recently, painting tiny canvases in national park-inspired scenes.
Here's some poetry she wrote in her math book, just like those monks copying manuscripts years ago added their own thoughts to the margins to make life more interesting:
The sunlight shines upon her fur,
So now it seems to glow,
And why she looks so pleased and smug is something I don't know.
The sunlight soothes her worries;
She purrs without restraint.
It's very clear this sunlit cat is perfect, without taint.
And on the next page:
I rub her chin, I pet her tum.
She blinks and smiles and rolls.
It is my job to pamper,
She pays me with her purr.
And for the final stanza, she changes it up:
She's always, always sleeping,
Unless she's busy licking.
I try to let her rest as best I can.
In order to conserve time so she could write the poetry, she omitted some steps of problems and shortcutted her way to the final answer. Personally, I'm wondering if we should be doing math at all--after all, she could probably make her way in the world just fine with a little cat poetry and a smile.
Speaking of math, it remains on her list of things she won't do without a fight. Also included: dentistry (still) and grammar. Other things she won't do without a varying level of nagging: clear her dishes at the table, brush her teeth/hair, clean her room, turn out her light and go to sleep (basically anything recurring).
She freely admits that she gets distracted easily and this keeps her from getting schoolwork done and sleeping at night. To the point that I had her take a self-test for ADD (turns out, her answers lined up almost perfectly in the "gifted" column, with almost none in the ADD column, so there's our problem...).
But she maintains enough focus to produce lovely art, hold interesting and in-depth conversations, learn all about microscopic (and non-microscopic) critters, plan an entire campout for AHG, bake amazing key-lime bars, learn a TON of lines for the play she's in, crochet an entire blanket, kayak and hike long (ish) distances, scatter joy around the world, and all the rest. Not bad for a 12-year-old!
Saturday, September 17, 2022
Naomi's Ninth
| Naomi was super excited to be the birthday girl! |
Naomi is nine! And nine is a big deal. Her birthday wish list, written on the dry-erase board, included the following:
A glue gun (later crossed off, because I didn't allow her to put glue all over the counter in an attempt to make solid glue creations)
A real pet Guinea pig
A pencil sharpener
A tape dispenser
Erasers
Really big drawing paper
A specific Guinea pig book
Mini lights that you could turn on and off, to use for crafts.
A stuffed axolotl Squishmallow (Google it)
Only later did it include things like:
A stuffed Guinea pig
Another specific Guinea pig book
Much later. Saturday later, with her birthday on Sunday.
Fortunately, unlike a certain stuffed puppy crisis of Christmas 2018, Naomi had a delightful birthday even knowing that she wasn't going to get a real Guinea pig (yet, anyway), and that she'd probably written the stuffed Guinea pig on the list too late to actually receive one. If she was feeling emotions such as "disappointed" or "frustrated," she bottled them up well.
But it'd be hard not to have a great day when waking up to a sweetly decorated dining room (llamas were the theme), plenty of gifts that she actually did request (nice of Target to have so many back-to-school sales just in time for Naomi's school-supply requests!), Lucky Charms for breakfast, and a sister sleepover the night before.
I will never get tired of saying how grateful I am to birthday-girl sisters for making each others' days special. The two older girls pulled out all the stops even after losing sleep to a sister sleepover.
And even when, in addition to the stuffed axolotl from Elise Naomi got the super cool gift they both probably would've asked for if they knew it existed: a 3D printing pen. I'd had the idea when Naomi gave up on the idea of a glue gun. "Wait... I think they make a product like that that's way cooler... Amazon?!?"
| Eventually we made guinea pigs instead of random strings. |
Although much of the melty plastic was initially used to make long vertical strings and other kinda weird little sculptures, Naomi eventually learned how to make a bunny... sort of. There's lots of room to grow, but the YouTube videos sure look cool.
Naomi was delighted to wear the Birthday Girl button at church--where they had a giant box of donut holes set out just for her (or for a volunteer recruitment event, maybe--but probably just for her). She loves going to her class and even made a new friend named...drum roll...Naomi!
| Fuzzy rug from Grandma and Grandpa, and a cuddly sister! |
Back at home, Matt had his super amazing pancakes all ready to whip up. Naomi opened a gift and played a quick game of Telestrations with me and her sisters, who were still, thankfully, not too worn out by all the celebrating to stick close to the birthday girl and continue to make it a special day.
There wasn't a ton of afternoon left after our late lunch, and before Grandpa and Marianne arrived, but Naomi had plenty of ways to fill it. Soon, though, we were metal detecting in the yard with Grandpa. Whose birthday is it?!?
| Chocolate cherry cake and llama plates--a great combo. |
And then Jason's Deli, a rousing game of Telestrations (new family favorite?), more gifts, and lots of fun overall. Plus cake, and two different ice creams (if you only go to Jason's Deli once a year, you do kinda need the free soft-serve!), including Grandpa's special homemade ice cream.
As a bonus birthday, Naomi also got to invite friends to paint pottery at a local studio the Saturday after. Although there was frequent confusion about which pastel color on the palette would turn which vibrant color when the pottery was fired, a patient attendant with a wet sponge was able to fix every mistake and help the girls enjoy their experience.
| See the worry in Naomi's face? She's still nervous about fire. |
Naomi painted an adorable orange and white cat (2 guesses where she got the inspiration), and enjoyed seeing her friends paint a mix of dolphins, horses, and other animals--plus Kalina's plate. We also enjoyed cupcakes and gifts, most of which were crafts. She's set up for a while now!
It was a pretty awesome birthday, and so much fun to celebrate our sweet girl! Happy birthday, Naomi!
Naomi is gaining confidence as a 9-year-old, which shows up not only in how she talks to her sisters (which is ripe with pros and cons), but also in tasks that she takes on. Case in point: trying to earn 6 new badges over the summer so she can fill up her "flower" on her AHG vest. Ambition--I like it!
| Naomi shows off her new pencil sharpener, and I show off my new 9-year-old. |
Stuffed animals are still her favorite, but she's increasingly enjoyed playing with little kids this year, like neighbor girls and little sisters of friends, and her well-honed nurturing skills are transferring well. Moms/grandparents everywhere love her--she's a natural and she genuinely enjoys playing with littles.
Naomi desperately wants a pet Guinea pig, but also openly recognized that eventually she "might not be as into Guinea pigs anymore." So she wants a pet one before she's lost interest. Hmm... maybe we won't just run right out to the store for that one. However, if she maintains interest, and maybe at some point we're short a bunny...
She uncomplainingly and unfailingly takes care of the bunny, which she's claimed for her own (to the annoyance of Elise, for whom I don't feel much sympathy as she's unwilling to do anything about it) and renamed Oreo. She's done this partly to convince us she could handle a Guinea pig. And she's totally proved her point. Matt and I just can't handle cleaning out another cage.
Naomi's expanded her reading horizons, breezing through the only 3 Harry Potter books we've let her read and picking up a lot of historical fiction. She's been increasingly able to handle suspense and sadness in books, shows, and conversation, as well as even a tiny bit of blood and guts. We're up to, like, a paper cut.
Increasingly adventurous outside, Naomi will happily hold frogs and scale cliffs. Yet she's very scared of the dark, and ants. She's also a newly discovered claustrophobic. Worms are her least favorite.
Naomi's new skills include baseball (thanks, cousins, for playing with us!), practicing piano without needing much from me, violin, a pretty decent cursive, making pancakes, cleaning toilets, a solid doggie paddle and diving underwater, actually eating food she doesn't like (it happened! Like twice! Only because I made her, though...), using a porta potty (despite being claustrophobic and only, she informed me, because it was her only option), a few computer skills, doing her own hair, and drawing fairly well--her newest thing is to draw people sitting down. Like Mona Lisa. I think she may actually surpass my skills in that this year (not that that's much to speak of).
She had her first audition in a musical theater class this year, and earned a fun little solo part that she's really excited about. We're excited to see her personality shine through on stage, and she's been enjoying acting and learning to sing with a group.
The girl loves flowers (always has, looking back--many wildflowers lost their lives to be stuffed into a vase after family walks), and is uncovering a new interest in interior decorating. We have vases with fake flowers that she arranged all over the house. And ceramic bunnies as decorative arrangements. And pompom animals. It's super sweet, and I'm counting the days until she can for real decorate my house for me. Until then I'm enjoying the colorful hodgepodge.
She also likes shopping with me, but mostly at stores that have "animal decorations" (i.e., ceramic bunnies and such). Usually, this means Hobby Lobby, but I've also convinced her to come along to Target and Bed, Bath and Beyond. Even the grocery store she doesn't really mind.
She's asking really good questions lately, showing lots of thoughts and larger-than-life connections. We often Google things together.
Around the house, Naomi will happily do Elise's chores for her, but will freak out about washing dishes. Why? The plate may have touched food she doesn't like. Some things never change after 9 years--but we wouldn't have it any other way!
Monday, August 22, 2022
Chaos and Camp
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| Thumbs up for summer camp! |
Every week in the summer is different. Which is super refreshing and fun at first (towards the end I'm usually way ready for a schedule again). There's VBS week, with younger kiddos out of the house in the morning, there are various half-day camps, occasionally, and there are the weeks with nothing planned that end up planned anyway (but with trips to the pool, Hobby Lobby, fun places around town, playdates with friends, and random walks). There are also the inevitable trips and visits.
Plus occasionally I like us to do math in the summer, and most days I assign some sort of a special chore, in addition to regularly scheduled music practice. As I commanded my kids to clean the baseboards, walls, doorframes, doors, and cabinets one morning, I realized that I wasn't sure I'd ever actually cleaned my own baseboards--or at least not more than a couple times. Only my mom's. It's totally a kid job that gets neglected when there are no able-bodied kids in the house. Another mommying mystery, solved: which adults actually regularly clean the baseboards? None of them! Why? Because it's not that important and it's hard on our knees! Why assign it to kids? So they learn to work/keep out of trouble/it's hard to mess up! Plus they're the ones who get them dirty in the first place! (Or, if you regularly clean your baseboards, just disregard this part. Also, I suppose now that I know better I will probably stay up on it, but for now it's totally a kid job. Please don't look too closely.)
And actually, cleaning the woodwork is a job they all actually really get into--especially Elise and Naomi and Magic Erasers. There's something truly satisfying about scrubbing dirt off polished wood.
Anyway, summer is basically managed chaos (but good kinds of chaos!), which totally freaked poor Matt out when he first started working from home, and still does--especially when he actually tries to stay on top of our movements. I'm not sure why anyone tries, actually, because it all changes at any moment anyway.
Plus it helps that I purposefully schedule in plenty of down time.
Chaos doesn't mean kids hanging from the chandeliers, by the way (except Elise recently hanging ribbons from the chandelier so it looks like a giant jellyfish--a big improvement). Sometimes it means everyone is peacefully reading one minute and then rushing out the door to piano lessons/pool/local attraction/playdate/etc. the next.
Ah, summer!
But nothing challenges a chaotic summer schedule like a week of sending the older kids off to a 5-night camp.
To prepare, we bunched all of our activities into the week before and week after (talk about chaos!). We also discussed all the "what ifs?" To help with these, we devised a code, knowing that the camp photographer would make her rounds every day.
In addition, watched videos on horses, as the camp was called Horse Wilderness. They would be doing wilderness things, and also horse things. Kalina, not being super into horses, was going to have to fake it. Elise, not being in 7th grade yet, was also going to have to fake it. [The camp was officially for grades 7 and 8, but by nudging Elise into 7th--which she could totally be in anyway. As long as no one asked too many questions. Plus usually once people meet Elise, they want to keep her, so she I knew her personality would work in her favor if need be.]
And finally, we packed. The girls packed from a rather sparse list, and we asked our friends about the rest. They actually ended up well-prepared, and not really over-prepared. Perfect.
And I wrote letters, one to be delivered to each girl, each day. I believe most kids got a, "Love you! Mom" type of letter. Not mine. They received 3 long, fun (to me!) letters from me, and another each from one of the cats.
And then we were off! It took me an entire day to drop them get them to camp, and return home empty-handed.
The drive up was fun, getting excited about camp. We talked through scenarios and discussed what to do at each one. The girls read. I savored the last couple hours of me and my older girls. And finally, we made it to the iconic restaurant we'd agreed to meet up with our friends at, with whom they'd be attending camp (just the kids, though).
After another drive, we arrived at the camp. And then, after I spent 4 hours in the car, plus a restaurant meal, it took all of 10 minutes to drop them off. I felt ripped off, and ripped apart.
I didn't mean to come back a zillion times after dropping them off, but it happened. First, to encourage sunscreen--after all, they were standing right in the sun! Seriously, girls?!? Then, to ask Kalina if she wanted the book that was on the front seat (she didn't). Next, to take their picture. Everyone was laughing at me at this point, self included.
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| The whole cabin! Elise has apparently found a snail, and the fun counselor is interviewing it for the photo. Because Elise. |
Finally, I actually drove away, with Kalina loudly predicting I'd be back. Soon, it dawned on me that I hadn't told the counselor that the girls would be picked up by their friends' parents, which is kinda important. Back I went--but that was it! I turned on my audio books and hit the road.
By evening, the camp had uploaded loads of photos from check-in and the first chapel service. And there I was! One of my many attempts to say goodbye was captured for posterity. More important, there were my girls, vehemently giving me thumbs ups in each picture.
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| Kalina makes breakfast |
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| Waiting for breakfast |
I wondered if all week, all I would see in photos would be thumbs. Fortunately, that was not the case--they relaxed and had a fantastic time, from the looks of the photos. I did not, unfortunately, get a single shot of one of my girls on or even near a horse. But I did see that they cooked breakfast outside (Kalina tended the fire and checked the meal), did a perfectly coordinated Church Clap at chapel, and threw hatchets at a target (embarrassingly, I didn't actually recognize them until they got home and they showed me...).
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| Church clap! |
Another stalker-Mom moment happened every evening when I checked their account balance to see if I needed to add more cash. You know, for things like candy and slushies (cushy camp!). One night, I saw that Elise had spent something like $17 and I figured out that she had probably purchased a milkshake and a t-shirt. But which shirt? After checking out the store online, I found the camp horse shirt that looked just like Elise. Was I right? (spoiler alert--I was only wrong about the milkshake!)
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| This is a picture I didn't recognize until after they showed me at home. Because ax throwing ?!?!? |
But Kalina and Elise weren't the only girls who had a fantastic week! Naomi started talking the minute they left and didn't stop until after they got back home. We loved hearing from her.
Plus, she attended our favorite art camp with a good friend, Emily. As a bonus, the camp has a mini farm attached to it, and the new animals this year were bunnies. Every "recess," Naomi bonded with the same one. The whole recess.
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| Naomi and her non- bunny friend |
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| Naomi and her camp bunny |
You'd think we would've had a lot of extra time on our hands, but that wasn't the case. I'd found a sweet little paper flower kit and we poured over the complex instructions and completed a few steps every day, waiting to let the glue dry. We learned a lot and produced a poppy and a purple one by the end of the week. They were lovely, but time-consuming! We also worked on a couple badges, since Naomi's trying to fill her AHG flower this summer, having just moved up to the next level. And baked, and read, and chatted, and played games.
With a playdate or two and other random things going on, the week passed super quickly, but we enjoyed every moment of it. In fact, we might just send the older girls away for a week every year...
| Naomi and her art |
| Our friends stayed the night after camp! After lots of showers, we had dinner and celebrated Kalina's birthday early, because we could. |
Wednesday, June 29, 2022
Beach "vacation!"
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| The. Cutest. Cottage. |
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| Our junior ranger! |
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| Bat not pictured. Naomi being a trooper. |
The next day, we drove the rest of the way to St. Augustine, Florida. The kids are champs in the car, and we all enjoyed listening to Elijah of Buxton, a somewhat humorous, exciting, educational, heartwarming, character-building book about a boy living in a free slave settlement in Canada. We did have Subway, and enjoyed every crumb.| How we all felt when we arrived at the beach. |
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| See all the nesting birds in the background? |
We ended up at the Alligator Farm. The alligators were cool, but our favorite site was alllllll the nesting water birds that somehow chose the trees hanging over the alligator-infested waters of this little zoo as the ideal place to raise their young. We saw all stages of chicks, observed feedings, heard their calls, and avoided being sullied. Plus, the alligator shows and such were pretty cool, too, and we got to chat with a keeper for a while and learn what it's like to be one. | A cool spot on the roof of the fort. |
| Naomi and I like old houses. :) |
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| We drank from the fountain of youth! Except Naomi, who was weirded out by it, but also nervous she'd get in trouble with the docent if she didn't actually drink. |
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| Feeding an albino peacock! |
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| I think this is Elise's crab larvae. I think. |
| Elise in her happy place. Which is pretty much the entire ocean. |
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| Yay! Gorgeous water, and so much fun to kayak with Brian! |
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| It was so bright, I had no idea if any of my photos were turning out. |
| Gorgeous night, just no gators. |
| Look carefully for the anoles on Matt and Elise. |
| Manatee nostrils are totally a thing. Or should be. |
| Naomi in her favorite hat, with her new favorite animal. |
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| The gorgeous spring |
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| Happy early birthday, Uncle Brian! We even left him the rest of the cake. |
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| We used to play in our stream together; now, it's the ocean! |
| Not pictured: cousin Ed, who's actually taking the picture. |
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| Check the box on holding an alligator! |
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| We could've held this bird all day. |
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| This guy deserves a beach trip to recover from this beach trip! |
| Old St. Augustine. We felt like we were in Spain! |























